I wonder why we are afraid of sharing our space with the people we love? I remember experiencing an internal upheaval when I had to commit to living on a permanent basis with the man I loved... I wonder if it's the idea of sharing our space that really bothers us or it is something more profound, the idea of committing to a long term relationship that is really the cause of our sleepless nights....
Maybe some of us are simply not the marrying kind ... But how do we know that this is the case? And how do we know that on time? Living together is an art which comes with experience and cannot be achieved by everybody. A good (and more experienced) friend once said that we have to work at our relationships the same way as we do at our jobs. We have to carefully plan the time with our partner the way we would a business meeting. I wonder if that is not a bit cynical. I wonder if a relationship that needs worked upon isn't a relationship ultimately doomed to succomb. That would mean that nothing comes naturally anymore, that efforts are needed to "make things work". How do we know when a relationship dies? Is it possible to "read the signs" and prevent it from happening or are we just condemned to watch our relationships falling apart?
As with everything, there is no absolute truth... After all, relationships come and go and the world moves on as it has always done.
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Relationships are tough. Like anything work is required. If you have a garden, you pull the weeds, plant the flowers and water and feed them. If you are lucky the garden blossoms under your care and all is beautiful.
Sometimes, despite your best efforts the ground is unsuitable, the weather inclement, or there are other things drawing on your time. The garden withers and dies.
No amount of care will now restore the dead plants and flowers. Replanting, perhaps ... but still it will not be the same garden.
Yes, Jim, I am more or less of the same opinion ...
After the plants die, you can replant but you cannot revive the dead ones so nothing will be quite the same again ...
And this is so sad...
and sundry to conjour upbut it could be like the pheonix...Reborn out of the ashes of old.Envigorated with new vitality and ready for its new life :-) I suppose it all hinges around your own opinion as there is an analogy for all at will
but it could be like the pheonix...Reborn out of the ashes of old.
Envigorated with new vitality and ready for its new life :-)
I suppose it all hinges around your own opinion as there is an analogy for all and sundry to conjour up at will.
it could be like the pheonix...Reborn out of the ashes of old.Envigorated with new vitality and ready for its new life :-) I suppose it all hinges around your own opinion as there is an analogy for all and sundry to conjour up at will
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